ACCORDING to research by Cera Care, one of the UK’s leading home care providers, 67% of Llanelli residents aged over 70 expect to be cared for at home by their loved ones as they reach old age, yet these expectations are putting strain on relationships.
An additional 18% stated that they expect to move in with their children if and when the time comes that they need additional care, however 78% of middle-aged couples admitted that working out how to care for ageing parents has caused a rift between them. According to the study, men in Llanelli are more likely to favour residential care for their parents, with 64% stating that care homes are the best option compared to just 39% of women.
At the other end of the scale, a fifth of those over 70 don’t think they will need assistance as they get older, with an additional 25% of the population admitting that they have never discussed elderly care with their parents. When it comes to the role reversal of old age, half of those surveyed in Llanelli admitted that they worry about their parents’ ageing, with a further 22% confessing that they are worried that they won’t know how to care for their parents if it was required.
Feelings of guilt and a sense of obligation also came to light during the study, with 27% admitting they would feel guilty if they were unable to care for their parents at home and a further one in ten admitting that they don’t want to be responsible for their parent’s care. People also admitted to feelings of pressure, with one in five admitting that being responsible for their parents’ care would be too much responsibility.
Life expectancy in the UK is at an all-time high, with most people living into their 80s thanks to advances in healthcare and living conditions. However, as people live longer, the need for elderly care also dramatically increases, with many families struggling to agree on the best way to look after elderly relatives.
Established in 2016, Cera Care specialises in helping people select the right care for their loved ones and offers continued support for as long as it is required. The company carried out the study of 2,000 British adults to find out how prepared families are to look after ageing generations and encourage people to discuss their wishes for care with their loved ones before it’s too late.
Sarah McEwan, Head of Carer Recruitment at Cera Care said: “The majority of people will require some sort of care during the last years of their lives, be that following a hospital stay, during an illness, or simply as they become less able due to old age. But with so many care options available, such as residential homes, assisted living, family support or at home care, it’s sometimes hard to work out what is best.
“With this in mind, we carried out the nationwide study to raise awareness of the importance of starting these conversations and encourage people to approach the subject of elderly care with their loved ones so that if the time comes when additional support is needed, families have one less thing to worry about.”
In response to the survey’s findings, Cera Care have put together a comprehensive guide on what issues people should consider when planning care with their parents and sensitive ways they can broach the topic and start a discussion.
You can see the guide at: https://ceracare.co.uk/blog/
Conservatives in disarray over alleged Christmas party lockdown breach
THE CONSERVATIVE Party is investigating the attendance of senior Senedd members and staff at a Christmas party held during December’s lockdown.
Lockdown restrictions prohibit mixing with people outside your own household.
The Welsh restrictions barring such gatherings follow the basic outline of those imposed by the Conservative UK Government in December.
Those attending the drinks party included Paul Smith, the Conservative Chief of Staff at the Senedd, Darren Millar, the Party’s Chief Whip and campaign coordinator, and Preseli Pembrokeshire MS and Conservative Senedd Group Leader Paul Davies.
The Herald understands that a Labour Senedd Member who attended the Party has been suspended by the Labour Senedd Group pending its own investigation.
The Conservatives’ embarrassment at talking the talk but not walking the walk is intensified by Darren Millar’s presence at the shindig.
In May, Mr Millar led calls for Wales’ Health Minister Vaughan Gething to be sacked for eating a bag of chips in a park with one of his own children.
If the Conservative Party follows the logic of their previously stated positions, Mr Millar’s and Mr Davies’ futures look bleak indeed.
With a Senedd election only months away, the revelations have thrown the Conservatives into disarray.
If they do nothing, the Conservatives will – at the very least – face claims they are hypocrites.
If the Conservative Party acts decisively, it faces massive internal problems.
The Conservatives responded to our request for a response to our story.
Those involved stressed they did not host a Christmas Party.
The incident happened on December 8, when the above met in the members’ tea room to discuss legislation for possible inclusion in the Welsh Conservative manifesto with a Labour backbencher.
During the evening they did drink a glass or two of wine.
They stress that at no point were there more than four people in the room at any one time and that they maintained social distancing.
A joint statement from Paul Davies, Darren Millar, and Paul Smith said: “We are profoundly sorry for our actions.
“While we did not break the rules, we recognise that what was part of a day’s work would not be seen to be following the spirit of them, especially given the tough time the country has been going through.”
Family tribute to Carole Patricia Fowler
Carole was a teacher for 30 years at St Mary’s Catholic Primary School, Llanelli. She loved children and they loved her.
As one of her past colleagues said: “I know she made such a difference to every child she taught.” She was very popular with staff and well respected and loved by parents. She was dedicated and conscientious, always 100% for the children. She led the music there and was always popular with her guitar accompaniments for services and concerts.
Likewise, she was a valued member of the choir at Holy Cross Roman Catholic Church, Gendros, Swansea, where she would often accompany hymns with her guitar and gave guitar lessons to the children in the church’s Saturday Music Club. She was also a keen member of Côr Persain, Ammanford.
She was talented, loved and in demand. A convicted and devout Catholic all her life, through good and bad.
Carole was an avid and very gifted crocheter and was always crocheting or knitting something for someone. She had been spending her time recently, during the Covid crisis, crocheting NHS teddies in scrubs and rainbows, with many given to practising nurses. Carole had recently started learning to make bobbin lace. She was also capable of some very decent sewing, too.
She was also learning Welsh, doing ‘pilates’ and was considering taking up yoga lessons as well.
She was a busy lady! As one of her work colleagues said of her: “She was wise, strong, beautiful, generous, devout and feisty. And I loved her for all those qualities.”
Above all, she was an immeasurably loved Mam, daughter, sister and a doting Mamgu and so much loved by her fiancé. Having been together for 14 years, they would have been married last July 20th had covid allowed!
Her premature passing at 61 is tragic and she is already sorely, painfully missed. She leaves behind a huge chasm in so many hearts that cannot be filled.
“Eternal rest grant unto her, o Lord, may perpetual light shine about her, may she rest in peace.”
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Tip off leads to pensioner’s drug stash
A BRIEFCASE full of drugs has been recovered during a raid in Swansea suburb.
Police acting on information provided by a member of the public executed a warrant in Gorseinon and recovered a large quantity of cannabis.
A man was arrested on suspicion of possession of the class B drug, with intent to supply.
A South Wales Police spokesman said: “At around 5.40pm on Wednesday, January 6, following an intelligence led operation, a 68 year-old man from Gorseinon was arrested on suspicion of possession with intent to supply cannabis.
“He was taken to Swansea central police station for questioning. He has been released under investigation”.